If you have a wedding coming up, you are going to need to send out invitations. However, sending out invitations can be a sticky business. Here are some modern twists on classic wedding etiquette rules that are both proper, acceptable and will suit your modern sensibilities.
Addressing A Married Couple Who Shares The Same Last Name
Your grandmother or even your mother might advise you to address invitations to a married couple to “Mr. & Mrs. John Wallace.”
However, unlike your grandmother, most of your younger friends may cringe at being addressed by both their husband’s first and last name; the lady in question does still have a first name. Addressing a married couple as “Mr. & Mrs. John Wallace” has fallen out of favor.
Feel free to address your invitation to “Mr. & Mrs. Wallace.” If you really want to use first names, use both of their first names. Address the invitation to “Mr. John Wallace & Mrs. Katherine Wallace.” The man’s name doesn’t even need to be listed first. You can put the woman’s name first if you want to.
Addressing A Married Couple With Different Last Names
If the wife did not take her husband’s last name, respect that wish on your invitation. Just address the invitation to “Ms. Katherine Black & Mr. John Wallace.”
Notice that the invitation is addressed as Ms. and not Mrs. Technically, if she did not take her husband’s last name, the invitee is still considered a Ms.
If the wife has a hyphenated last name, address the invitation to “Mr. John Wallace & Mrs. Katherine Black-Wallace.” In this case it is appropriate to address the wife as Mrs.
Inviting a non-married couple is very similar to inviting a married couple whom have different last names. Address the invitation to both parties, using their proper titles, and place an “&” symbol between their names.
If you want your single friends to come on their own, make sure you just address the invitation to them. However, if you want them to bring a guest, then address the invitation to “Ms. Kathy Lane & Guest.”
That way, your single friends will not have to wonder if it is okay if they bring a guest. By addressing the envelope this way, you take away the guessing and minimize the risk of having an awkward conversation where your friend has to ask if they can bring their boyfriend along to your wedding.
If you are inviting adults and children to your wedding, there are a few ways to handle this on the invitations. You can address the invitation to “The Wallace Family.” Try to stay away from addressing the invitation to the “The John Wallace Family”; it’s not only passé, it sounds awkward.
Or, you can address the invitation to “Mrs. & Mr. Wallace & Family” or “Mrs. & Mr. Wallace & Children.”
However, if their kids no longer live at home, splurge on an extra wedding invitation and send their children their own invite.
As a rule of thumb, address people with the formal title they use in their day-to-day lives. Don’t feel like you have to list the man’s name first; in today’s day and age it is perfectly acceptable to list the woman first on the invitation. This makes more sense as well if it is the woman whom you are close with. Finally, make sure your invitations are specific. Let your guests know based on how the invitation is addressed if they can bring a guest or their children. That way, you don’t have to include a “no-guest” clause or “no-children” clause with your wedding invitations.
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Just because the wedding is over doesn’t mean your time with a beautiful wedding dress is. After spending so much time finding the perfect dress or working with wedding dress designers, it makes sense that you would want to preserve it. By taking the time to clean and package it properly, you will be able to look at it again and see it in near perfect condition. Here are some tips for preserving your wedding dress.
Clean the Dress
Before packing up your wedding dress, you need to clean it thoroughly. Even though you didn’t wear it for long, it likely has deodorant, perfume, bodily oils, and maybe even some spilled champagne or cake from the reception. Be sure you don’t let it sit for too long before you clean it. You need to clean all the stains, even ones you don’t actually see. The fabric can start to weaken and yellow if you leave it open to the elements.
Send your wedding dress to an experienced cleaner. Don’t just choose any dry cleaner but one that specializes in wedding dresses. They will not use traditional dry cleaning methods, but use a gentle cleanser to get the stains out of the dress. They may also use a dry cleaning method, but will be careful what chemicals are used for delicate wedding dresses.
Package it Properly
Once your wedding dress has been cleaned and returned to you, don’t waste any time wrapping it and preparing it for storage. This is the second most important part of preserving it. If you keep it in the bag the dry cleaner gave it to you in, it won’t look the same in a few months. Remove it from their bag and wrap it in acid-free paper. You then want to place it in a box that is labeled as pH-neutral or acid-free. This lets the gown breathe and stay protected from the elements. Some boxes have a clear panel so you know what is stored and can see its condition. If not, try not to be tempted to open the box too often.
Make sure your wedding dress is stored in a cool, dry place. Keep it out of the heat and sunlight, as well as damp places like a basement. You can either store it in the back of your bedroom closet or in a climate-controlled storage unit. If there is no room in the closet, an attic that doesn’t get too warm is the next best place.
Get it Preserved Professionally
If you want to be extra sure the wedding dress is cleaned and packaged properly before storing it, you can have preserving done by a professional. They will clean or press the dress, prepare it in a box that is acid-free, and give you tips on how to store it. If you want accessories like your garter or veil to be preserved as well, they should be able to do that for you.Learn More